By Sarah Abell. I would appreciate your perspective and guidance on my relationship with my sister-in-law, Zara. She has been married to my brother Nick for 12 years and has always blown hot and cold with my family. Sometimes she can be very caring and involved, but she has phases when she actively withholds contact or sulks, often when there is a key family event planned. The triggers for her behaviour are often unclear, but I suspect it is sometimes due to a bad patch in her relationship with Nick. My brother is extremely easygoing, and wants to keep his immediate family happy and therefore does not intervene when things are difficult.
My sister-in-law has made me feel hurt and excluded, and my husband has allowed this
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My husband and I have been together for 12 years and we have two sons. I have a problem with one of my sisters-in-law. I feel that she places too many demands on my husband, and she and I have fallen out on occasion. My husband has "not got involved" and the onus has always been on me to smooth things over. She is quite a powerful woman within her family, and I feel they tolerate her poor behaviour.
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